First of all I would like to start with an apology to all those that are going to spent at least 5 to 10 minutes of their lives reading this article. This is because I am addressing an issue which I think in all honesty is a non–issue. So why am I writing about it. Again, someone asked me to. I would also like to get your thoughts on this issue or non-issue depending on your opinion.
Now to the issue.
IF A WOMAN ALREADY HAS A HOUSE BEFORE GETTING MARRIED, WHERE SHOULD THEY LIVE? Should my husband move in with me or should I rent/sell my flat and move into his own place i.e a place he has rented?
My answer – If you are both insane by all means rent out your flat and move.
According to the person posing the question “men have their ego and all”. So this move is based purely on the guy’s pride. Him not wanting to live in a woman’s house.
I really don’t know where to start because this has left me in danger of having a RANT.
I mean really, with the average price of a one bed flat in London at £82,000, you should be happy she had the good sense to get on the property market when she did. According to my peeps “shoe get size”. If you saw that she was too big for you why did you go there?
Honestly should a woman now get penalized because she is successful? This idea that your life has to stop mid–way or Post-University until you find a man is really putting unnecessary pressure on sisters. Women marriage does not define who you are. Full stop. If a man has low self-esteem please stay clear because where do draw the line.
- Do you resign from your higher paid job because you out earn him?
- Swap for CRV for a clio
- Swap your Gucci for Primark.
Note I am not saying stick to shopping high-end, I am saying if you have it already then why can’t you share it why must you give it up just to be with him.
In this era when you both share the bills and responsibilities in the house. What is the wisdom in renting out your house just to go and rent from someone else? (NOTE; I am not talking about moving because of location constrains or mortgage repayment constrains no just ego constrains). Won’t you still contribute to the house when you move? Why doesn’t he just take over the mortgage instead? Or contribute to it.
Please sisters’ marriage is forever so be careful about the compromise you make just because you want to get into it. When the wedding dress is removed, the bridesmaids are gone and ever after begins, think about this can I live with this forever?
Besides marriage is a joint venture why is there really an issue it’s our house.