I have been avoiding talking about this for a while now because I am not an expert to pass judgement. However I would really like to get people’s opinions on how long we need to get over a serious relationship?
I am now at a stage in my life where all my friends are either getting married, having children or about to get married and I guess some people might be under pressure to settle down and nest. However when I see people who go from one serious relationship (a relationship were marriage has been discussed, sometimes couple are engaged and planning a wedding is already underway before the breakup) to another serious relationship (were they are planning marriage again) it makes me wonder if they were really in love
According to Divorce Support.com “a rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship”. It is an experience we use to mask the pain of a broken relationship. It stops us from having to deal with the pain and turns our attention to something else. In other words it is just a distraction. It stops you from dealing with the real issue at hand. I just wonder if you loved someone, really loved them to the point of being able to spend the rest of your life with them, how long it would take you to get over them 3 months, 2 days, a second?
How long did it take you to fall in love in the first place? Maybe I am a cynic who does believe in love at first sight or even second sight for that matter. In my humble opinion it takes time to build a relationship.Give yourself time to breathe or not? Natalie Lue the author of baggage reclaim writes “Unfortunately, we need time to process and heal to be truly available and when we don’t, we use other people as emotional airbags”. It is estimated that within the first 6 months to a year 90% of rebound relationships fail. The reason being, you are not in it for love you are in it to fill a void. Imagine if you marry your rebound and 6 months down the line you discover they are not the one for you.
I always tell people you can either marry your friend or you can get a husband. You either marry someone with whom you would share your life or marry someone who you would have a life with.
Hi guys sorry for my long absence, hope you missed me 🙂